Perfectionism Paralyzes (Or, The Post That Made Me Cry Uncle)

It’s official. I wrestled with a blog post and the blog post won. It was bound to happen sooner or later.

On Saturday, I spent many hours working on a post due out this morning. (Just for context, I am the world’s slowest writer. And also, I don’t like to write. Why I chose blogging as a career is still a mystery.)

Those hours of writing were squeezed in around soccer games, a run to the airport and dinner out for a friend’s birthday–you know, normal Saturday stuff.

Well, I don’t know if you’re a blogger and if this has ever happened to you, but at 11:00pm I was still working on the post (with no end in sight) and I suddenly realized I was done. Absolutely done. Like, I hit a wall done. Like, “I’ve got nothin’ left” done. Just plain done.

So I closed up the computer and went to bed.

the post that made me cry uncle

The post I was working on was about a sale. A big sale. Objectively, it’s an excellent value, but I had been wrestling with the “right” way to tell you about it. I wanted everything to be just so. “Do I say it like this or like that?” “Is it better to put that there or here?” “Should I link like this or not at all?” Perfectionism kicked in big time.

Perfectionism paralyzes. (<--Click here to tweet this).

And I am so tired of being paralyzed.

So I thought, “Why am I doing this? I should just tell them that there’s a huge ebook bundle on sale and I’m buying it I bought it and maybe they should too.”

So that’s what I’m telling you. There’s a huge ebook bundle on sale. I’m buying it I bought it and maybe you should too.

Here’s the gist

The name is a bit of a misnomer because it’s really so much more, but it’s called The Ultimate Homemaking eBook Bundle. A $640 value for less than $30. You can see the entire list of almost 100 (!) ebooks & ecourses included, as well as all the fine print over on the not-really-finished post that made me cry uncle.

For homemakers and women, it’s a no-brainer. For non-homemakers, the reason why I think you would benefit is because there are several ebooks in the bundle about blogging, time management, money management and more. It’s certainly enough to make the bundle totally worth it. And then you get a BOATLOAD of other ebooks to boot. (Did I say there are almost 100?) Plus freebies. Score. It’s definitely worth a look.

ultimate homemaking ebook bundle

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Comments

  1. says

    I just discovered your blog a few days ago, and already I have found it so helpful! You may not enjoy writing, but you are doing a real service for those of us who do! Thank you! And I, too, suffer from paralyzing perfectionism.

  2. says

    Wow Amy! You hit the nail on the head. I do a lot of reviews but it seems to take me FOREVER to write them. Friends tell me I do a nice job of writing the reviews, BUT…does it have to be just so? It can take me hours to post 1 review and I don’t have any kids left at home to distract me. One of my blogger friends can post 3 or 4 reviews in the time it takes me to do 1. Plus, I’m trying to get a new blog up and running….for at least 3 months now. Arggg…..Thanks for sharing!

  3. says

    Amen! I’m an affiliate for the bundle too, but don’t even know how to wrap my head around marketing it (even after joining the FB group!). I’ve put off even starting the post but need to hop to it before more time passes by.

  4. says

    Been there too, and you know what, sometimes the BEST thing to do is close that computer and go to bed. Get away from it. Then, the next morning, with a clear (ish) head, you can get that post done and move on.
    It’s just a post.
    Thanks for sharing your struggle and the sale!

  5. says

    Lol, I was under so much stress for the same post. Plus I had another due up on another site about an event I attended over the weekend and I was feeling like I had spread myself too thin. I got both done and out on Monday, but maybe a little later in the day than planned? It is a great bundle and I am really excited to read it, but it really is hard to say that without sounding fake.

  6. says

    Hi Amy,

    You mention in your “uncle” post (awesome post btw!) that you can give away any of the e-books or e-courses that you don’t want – does that just involve emailing someone the pdf after you download it? And does that go against the copyright at all? I already have a bunch of the books in this bundle but would like to buy it for some of the ones I don’t have, and I like the idea of giving away some of the ones that are duplicates (or those I”m not interested in). Thanks for any clarification you can shed!

    • says

      Hi Hilda, great question! Yes, you are free to give the ebooks away, but not share them. In other words, you can forward the file to a friend, but after doing so, you must delete it from your own computer. Forwarding the PDF to someone and keeping it for yourself also would be sharing and would be illegal. Thanks for asking!

  7. colin murphy says

    Perfectionism not only is paralyzing; it can lead to burnout. If you have expectations that are too high and that are never fulfilled or realized, this is a “burnout scenario”, and burnout is serious, honestly.
    Great job on teaching us about blogging! Thank you!

  8. says

    I was supposed to write a post about that bundle this weekend too… but I didn’t. It’s on my list for later in the week (hopefully before the sale is over), but if it doesn’t get done, it doesn’t get done. Sometimes life is more important than promoting the latest sale! :)

  9. says

    Amy, you are my role model. Perfectionism is the exact reason I am still going nowhere with my blog! Thank you for the post and for all the things you teach us!

  10. says

    I laughed out loud reading this. I spent hours on the same bundle post! I was going back and forth about “how do I not sound like a sleazy sales page” and “is this right for my readers” and “have I been selling too much recently and not giving enough for free?” There are all kinds of reasons for one to get tied in a knot about posts. I was glad to see your book in the bundle. I bought it individually a while back and I loved it!

  11. says

    Bless you, Amy!! I thought it was just me and having only don’t this for not very long. The post for the Ultimate Homemaking ebook Bundle (http://www.amylearns.com/2013/04/the-utlimate-mothers-day-gift-bundle.html) that I have has been a killer. It’s basically been cut/pasted to death with links changed 4 times to finally get them to work. I’ll be thrilled at this point if a single person uses my link. It’s ugly, impersonal and sucked the life out of me while filling me with stress. At this point, I’m just not sure monetizing is for me. Definitely wasn’t fun. Thanks for sharing so much. So glad your book is included, it is an amazing collection. Hope you make a bundle! (wink)

  12. says

    I totally understand this. Something that really helped me a few years back was a quote from Joel Saltzman’s book “If You Can Talk, You Can Write.” He said that perfectionism leads to paralysis which leads to procrastination. So he advised writers to strive for progress, not perfection. This has helped me a lot, not only in writing, but in other areas of my life.

  13. says

    Wow, that is so comforting to know you don’t like to write and that you’re a slow writer. I thought I was the only blogger out there who didn’t like to write! I could so relate to what you said today as I, too, struggle with perfectionism. I’m learning how to let it go – and the more I let it go the more I enjoy writing. Will be glad when it’s entirely gone (I’m having faith that that’s possible!) Will check out the bundle. Thanks for all your help. I really get a lot out of your blog – am glad you persevere in writing even though you don’t enjoy it!

    • says

      Oh Barb. Yes, we should start a club. One of the biggest disappointments after starting my blog was the realization that, “Oh cool, I have a blog!…Oh no, that means I have to write on a regular basis.” LOL

      • says

        Haha! I agree. Making and maintaining the blog is the easy part . . . but . . . oh no! We need content! I actually have to WRITE OUT my ideas.
        I wish I could download things straight from my brain. I’d still have to edit but I think it would be so much easier.

        • says

          Downloading things from my brain would be awesome…although it’d be mumbo jumbo to the rest of the world probably. I never realized how non-linear my thinking was until I started blogging. :)

  14. says

    How timely. I just posted a recipe last night that has taken me forever to get out. I started and stopped so many times because it wasn’t perfect. It still isn’t but I had to let it go. It’s good to hear from someone like you that it happens. Now I’ll check out the sale. =D

    • says

      Yes, when I hear people say they can throw up a post in 20 minutes I’m always baffled. I hope to be able to work that freely someday! I’m glad to know I’m not alone. :)

  15. says

    Hi Amy, I am in the process of building my first blog and you are one of three resources that I am using. The slow writing/typing thing is a big issue with me, though I do enjoy writing. I used to be a cop and regularly got involved in some very detailed cases. Being a slow writer and stressing over every detail can feel overwhelming especially when a certain report has to be done to perfection and there is a deadline attached. Anyway, thanks for being real and sharing your experience. I’ll be writing you when my site is ready to launch. I hope to do you proud because you played a major role in helping me get started. THANKS FOR EVERYTHING!

    • says

      Thanks so much, Uncle JJc. I’m glad you stopped by and are hanging out a bit. If I had to write reports as a police officer…oh my, I’m not sure how I’d do! Congrats on your in-the-wings site!

  16. says

    You make me smile. I am supposed to be writing mine that goes out in the morning. Instead here I sit reading yours! :) Ain’t life grand!?! Gotta love God! Just what I needed. Well I’m off to write. Stop by in the AM and let me know how I did. Bet this one won’t be any more Perfect than the others!

  17. says

    Yowza that a great deal! Thanks so much for sharing and if it helps any, I cry uncle on a regular basis….life gets me in a figure-four leg lock {I have all boys…my lingo all rotates around such terminology} and I cry give…but I never tap out!

    Have a wonderful, soothing, fabulous week.

    Mary Beth

  18. says

    I love what you are teaching me! You might not know what you are teaching me but I’m learning a LOT. So thank you! I’m glad you finally made it through the post.

    Saturday I spent hours doing what you are talking about here but I was dealing with a lot of interruptions (as we moms do). I finally finished my post and clicked the wrong button! To my horror I had not saved the draft. It was GONE! Ugh… smh Yes I started over. It took forever to get it done. Blogger problems, lol.

    • says

      Ooohhh, Pamela. {{in ball on floor feeling your pain}} Been there. Yes, definitely know how that goes. I’m glad it’s done now. Way to stick with it!

  19. says

    I thought I was the only slow writer that blogs. Although not quite my career I often wonder why I started a blog since writing is not necessarily a pasttime. I so relate to this post! “Perfectionism paralyzes” Thanks lady.